Social Language

This is where my daughter struggles most and where the professionals will start raising ASD as a live issue again.

She can sign “Please” and Thank you” but only when prompted. As of August 2017, these are becoming more spontaneous: see here. In fact, fully secured and genuine by September.

September also saw the start of “Sorry” as a concept: we bumped heads in the bath and she signed “sorry” and followed it up with a vocative spoken “Dad”. The code switching and code blending, I found interesting.

Similarly, she doesn’t really sign or say “Hello” or “Goodbye” or say “Good night” to her mum at bedtime. When prompted that it is time for bed – sometimes simply when she feels really tired, she just grabs my hand and takes herself down – she will literally just leave the room and take herself downstairs for bed and a story. Not a backwards glance. Not a wave. Nothing.

Proper nouns seem an obvious lacuna in her language. Receptively, she knows lots of proper nouns: she knows the names of her Paw Patrol toys and Chuggington and different TV shows and films but she is not, as yet, using them herself with the exception of signing Mummy and Daddy. This is starting to show progress now as we are forcing her to choose books at bedtime and she’s using the signs she has to name them. See here for details.

Today, we were walking and we were sitting on the roadside. For the first time I’ve seen, she was spontaneously waving at cars so that in iitself felt like a step forward.

One thing she does do well on social interactions is turn-taking. She can hold a conversation with me over the phone, using non-verbal utterances, but recognises that she has a turn to speak and a turn to listen. Also, verbally, on Tuesday 30th May, she was signing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and I asked her “Do you do this at school?” and without batting an eyelid, she replied “Yes.”